These are the quotes I highlighted from reading this book. (Title.) I wish I could attach a song that will be playing while you're reading this. Well, whatever!
I once heard Florence Littauer say, “We are attracted to marry each other’s strengths, and then go home to live with each other’s weaknesses.”
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Love is the glue that can hold us together and the oil that can keep us from rubbing each other the wrong way.
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What motivates a man? Complex question. Perhaps no man can reach into his own heart and pull out the exact words to describe what gets him out of bed in the morning.
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One motive, however, compels men like few others. It is foundational, perpetual, and insatiable. I speak of your husband’s need for his dad to be proud of him.
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The difference is not so much in what we do, but why we do it—our motives
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Men don’t tell others how they are really doing because they don’t think any one will really want an answer. In truth, most people don’t. Those people are up to their eyebrows with problems of their own.
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In fact, we could say that failure means to succeed in a way that doesn’t really matter.
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What men believe determines how they live.
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By default men become cultural Christians when they do not choose to proactively become biblical Christians.
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God is who he is, and no amount of wanting to recreate him in our imagination is going to have any effect on his unchanging character and nature
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We become cultural Christians when we do not proactively choose to become biblical Christians.
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The turning point of our lives is when we stop seeking the God we want and start seeking the God who is.
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In his book Margin, medical doctor Richard A. Swenson suggests that we have developed a new disease by overextending ourselves.
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The disease of marginless living.
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It would be funny if it wasn’t so sad. A lot of ministry today pulls men out of the home to tell them that they need to spend more time at home.
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Men become preoccupied with their work when that’s where their self-worth is tied up. Here’s the problem: If what your husband does is who he is, then who is he when he doesn’t do what he did anymore?
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Financial expert and radio broadcaster Larry Burkett has said, “If you are not living on the man’s income you are living beyond your means.” It’s a philosophy, not the Bible’s, but it’s worth chewing on.
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Nothing touches your life so personally as your husband’s temptation to emotionally neglect you.
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Your husband is most tempted to not give you the one thing you most need: emotional connection and intimacy.
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An old country preacher put it this way, “If a man gets drunk on whiskey we put him out of the church. If a man gets drunk on mammon we make him a deacon.”
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As a friend says, “We can choose our way, but not the result.”
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How deeply man’s pride can darken his mind.
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Pride is a sin of comparison in which a man compares his (perceived) strengths with another’s weaknesses
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Resolve to study the Scriptures for each area of persistent temptation. Accept the authority of the Scriptures, surrender your life in faith, and walk in the power of the Holy Spirit.
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May I tell you something that you may at first find hard to accept? You are the only real friend your husband has.
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Ask your wife, “What are two or three things I could do to make our sexual relationship more meaningful and pleasurable for you?”
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The best way to describe communication during the courtship phase is to say that for him it is a project and for her it is a lifestyle.
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Normally, what intrigues him are tasks, not relationships. He prefers to talk about facts, not feelings. He likes to discuss rational topics, not emotional ones. For him, communication is functional, to deliver information. Under normal circumstances he generally doesn’t use words to help him clarify his emotions.
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Ways to improve communication include listening, asking questions, expressing.
It's a pretty good book. I totally recommend. And I thinking I should do I Podcast about it.
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