What Wives Wish Their Husbands Knew About Women
Before difficult problems can be solved, they must be understood
It is enough to say that physical attractiveness (or the lack of it) has a profound impact on feminine self-esteem.
men tend to value intelligence above physical attractiveness in themselves, although both qualities are highly desired. For women, however, the opposite is true. Beauty outranks intelligence throughout life
The reason the average woman would rather have beauty than brains is because she knows the average man can see better than he can think.
Withdrawing and fighting are only two of the familiar responses to inferiority but these are the most common
The right to criticize must be earned, even if the advice is constructive in nature
Isolation increases inferiority
Everybody must be somebody to somebody to be anybody!
At all times in our lives we must have at least one person who cares about us and whom we care for ourselves. If we do not have this essential person, we will not be able to fulfill our basic needs.
Men derive self-esteem by being respected; women feel worthy when they are loved
A successful husband and wife relationship begins with the attitude of the man
Every physician knows that it is easy to kill his patient; the skill comes in curing him
We value that which we are fortunate to get; we discredit that with which we are stuck! We lust for the very thing which is beyond our grasp; we disdain that same item when it becomes a permanent possession
You see, not only are our emotions affected by the challenge of pursuit, but also by the possibility of irrevocable loss
We crave that which we can’t attain, but we disrespect that which we can’t escape.
The most successful approach to bringing a partner back toward the center of a relationship is not to follow when he moves away from it
The message I have attempted to convey is extremely difficult to express in written form, and I am certain to be misinterpreted by some of my readers on this issue
In short, personal dignity in a marriage is maintained the same way it was produced during the dating days. The attitude should be, “I love you and am totally committed to you, but I only control my half of the relationship. I can’t demand your love in return. You came to me of your free will when we agreed to marry. No one forced us together. That same free will is necessary to keep our love alive. If you choose to walk away from me, I will be crushed and hurt beyond description, because I have withheld nothing of myself. Nevertheless, I will let you go and ultimately I will survive. I couldn’t demand your affection in the beginning, and I can only request it now.”
However, their love is not defined by the highs and lows, but is dependent on a commitment of their will!
Anyone who believes that God guarantees a successful marriage to every Christian is in for a shock
In short, we must conclude that love is vulnerable to pain and trauma, and often wobbles when assaulted by life.
Don’t marry the person you think you can live with; marry the person you think you can’t live without . . . if such an individual ever comes along.
Superstition is the worm that exudes from the grave of a dead faith.
We are unequal creature
Sexual intercourse in marriage should bring pleasure, of course, but it should also provide a method of communicating a very deep spiritual commitment.
For the woman represented by the “inhibited” zone on our normal distribution graph, a feeling of being loved and appreciated is usually the only route to excitation
Remember this psychological law: any anxiety-producing thought or condition which cannot be expressed is almost certain to generate inner pressure and stress.
I would like to stress a fact understood by very few women: self-esteem is directly related to estrogen levels; hence, it fluctuates predictably through the twenty-eight-day cycle.
You see me as an ancient old woman, but I want to tell you something. This is me inside here. I haven't changed; I'm just stuck within this broken old body and I can't get out. It hurts me and it won't move right and it gets tired whenever I try to do anything. But the real me is not what you see. I am a prisoner within this decaying body
Depression is often evidence of emotional surrender.
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