You really can’t be thinking of blaming me right now, can you? Yes I get it, and I know it, I was wrong. But please, the boss was also late! But yeah, this is the life I signed up for.

It’s so funny sometimes, how we use another’s person supposed ‘wrongdoing’ to justify us being irresponsible with our actions. If this is how the concept of right and wrong works, nothing would ever really be wrong. If nothing is ever really wrong, then the foundation of what we call morality, order, and discipline starts to blur. Right and wrong become flexible, and it is shaped by convenience, ego, and perspective. Principles turn into preferences, accountability loses its weight, and rules only matter when they favor us. In that kind of world, society still looks structured on the surface, but underneath, it’s just chaos wearing a suit. Now none of that is fun, is it? Let only office people wear suits please.

I did not wear a suit to office on that day though, I wore a jean and shirt, with my feet clad in Nikes. My boss drove past me to the garage, I strolled past his car, even delayed my strides a bit so I could collect and carry his bag. Cool guy though, he nodded his head in acknowledgment and did not say a word to me.

So here is my defense; I didn’t wake up late, I just underestimated how fast time moves when you convince yourself you have “10 more minutes”. You know that dangerous comfort you feel when you’re still lying in bed but your mind whispers, you still have time? Yeah, exactly that one. By the time I realized time wasn’t on my side, it was already sprinting ahead of me. Ah! I thought we were buddies! The traffic didn’t help either, I swear Lagos roads have some sort of personal grudge against punctuality!

Looking back, it’s funny how quickly relief can replace guilt when life hands you a coincidence that favors you. For a moment, I felt completely justified, like the universe had approved my lateness. But the truth is, comfort in coincidence can be dangerous. It makes irresponsibility feel acceptable, even rewarding.

Maybe that’s the real test of discipline, doing right when nobody’s timing aligns with yours. Not because you’re trying to impress anyone, but because it says something about the kind of person you’re becoming and what you stand for. We all slip, but when excuses start to sound like reasons, that’s when self-awareness needs to step in.

And let’s be real, MDs can get to work any time they want to! They own the company. But is that irresponsible?

It’s really been a while since I showed up here. Not because I forgot, but because life has been doing normal life things; stretching, and pulling me in so many ways I didn’t fully expect and comprehend. I kept telling myself that “I’ll post tomorrow,” but somehow that tomorrow always moved further away. Not a good thing.

Truth is, I haven’t exactly known what to write or even share. Sometimes, you decide to open up your mind and what comes up is just a blank page that refuses to fill up with tangible words. And not because there’s nothing happening, but because there’s just too much happening. The thoughts feel scattered, and putting them into words becomes a whole task. Maybe rather, I should have done something, but I did nothing.

Lately, I’ve been trying to figure life out, where I’m headed, what I want, and how to balance all the noise. It sounds pretty basic until you’re the one actually living it. I feel like, these days, we all are trying to figure life out.

Ah! My social battery has been at an all time low too. I don’t know how I do it, but I still keep on showing up regardless. Maybe it is knowing the fact that anything that’s left in the dark would never be seen. Sometimes, showing up, no matter how dimly lit, is better than disappearing completely.

That brief break was not wasted though. It gave me enough space to breathe and to think. Staying quiet for sometime doesn’t mean you are done, it can also mean you are gathering energy and the necessary resources to resume your journey.

So this is me, slowly easing back in. And not with a regal statement(yet). It has been a minute, and I’m still surely figuring things out. Yeah, maybe that’s enough for now.

And if you’ve ever felt this same way, drained, quiet, then you probably(most definitely) get it. We are all just trying to show up. Sometimes just showing up is enough.

Hatewatching. What a beautiful concept. The joy of seeing the sorrows of another club is so beautiful to watch. Over the past week, I had my bowl full. Back to back meals. Liverpool thought they were going to run away with it lol. That first meal that PSG served has to be top 10 hate-watching ever. Splendid performance from them.

To be fair on them(Pool), they had a good run. Salah was on a generational run and I was actually rooting for him to win the Ballon d’or. Been a long long time an African won it. But unfortunately for him, he plays for our biggest rivals. Still a fan and wish him well.

Hatewatching is more than just a guilty pleasure, it’s a weirdly entertaining psychological trap. Some times, it’s about the thrill of witnessing a train wreck. Other times, it’s about feeding your inner critic. Let us be real, there is something very satisfying about seeing your rival get absolutely torn apart.

Why exactly do we do this to ourselves? It is simple, nothing beats this sequence of emotions. First comes the curiosity and denial, just basically convincing yourself that you only want to see how it unfolds. Then Investment, actually now interested in every play, every throw-in, every pass. Then the unbounded joy, man this feeling is out of this world, the joy of seeing the tears and the heartbreak of people you don’t like. Nothing beats this sequence I tell you.

So is this bad? Should we stop? Everyone has something they love to hate. You say you don’t care, but deep down you love the drama. Let’s not pretend we don’t enjoy it just a little too much. Because if we really hated it…we would just stop watching, right? Right.

After everything, you will tell yourself that you never really cared about them like that. Lol Oya nau. I believe you. Better tune in that match and feed your soul with joy.

Man, warra way to end the week. I’m sure you know the exact ‘gist’ I’m talking about. ‘Socialite’ is starting to have an underlying meaning.

From the hours in traffic to the bubbling nightlife and culture, Lagos gives inexhaustible measures for socialization. Social life, they say, is essential to longer lifespans. But thinking about it, socializing in Lagos is on a whole ‘nother level.

What exactly does it mean to socialize and how is the brand in Lagos different? Participating in social activities to foster a sense of belonging and connection by enabling individuals to build relationships, acquire social skills while also minimizing loneliness and isolation. Now that ‘connection’ and ‘building of relationships’ part is where Lagos comes in. Climbing up the social ladder is what the socialization tool is employed for. We have young people aspiring to be what their favorite socialite shows them on Snapchat. And I can’t even blame them. They are living the life.

Truth is, there is some honest living in the midst of all that shady stuff. Another truth is, there is a whole lot of shadiness, believe! I’m sorry but if you cannot point us to a legit source of income then you are into shady business. Oh ye snapchatters, can you confidently hand your favorite Lagos socialite the mic and trust them to point us to a legit source of income? Yeah, I did not think so.

You know what I think? I think our society is a product of the people. There’s so much to be done to instill good morals and values and erm just goodness really. Will any of us do the same thing they are doing if given the chance? Your answer is the exact reason we are in this mess in the first place.

It’s important to note that this post does not discredit the many hardworking young people with legit businesses and income streams. I need young people to also understand that it is indeed possible to ‘chop life’ and do it morally and legally. Lagos is a vibrant city, this happens in many vibrant cities. So it’s a norm. Should it be a norm though?

One more truth? That ‘gist’ was interesting. (***pulls hoodie over head and walks to a dark corner of the room to let out a chuckle***)

I kinda miss childhood. You know the no worries and no responsibilities period of our lives. Now, we have crushing weights put on us. Crazy thing is; we were not warned. Sure, they did not say adulthood would be all fun but they did not exactly say it wouldn't be either. Now we have to pursue dreams and take responsibility. Or 'ties'. Yeah, definitely 'ties'.

Like Asake would say; We definitely did not see this coming. But yes, we would go foreign for sure! That's on God.

Most times, people call on their different God(s), and feel they should be answered. God does not owe you anything. All our requests can't be granted. Truth is, about 80% of it won't be.

Hardwork does not guarantee success. But no success comes without hardwork. Everyone wants to drive a lambo dawg. But not everyone will.

The sad reality of life is, we all can't achieve our dreams. Life is conditioned in a way that keeps some people poor and others rich. Not cos they deserve it, but just because well... that's just life.

I believe everyone has a purpose. Actually I do not. Realistically, some people are here to be workers and others employers. We all can't be rich. This goes against the very layout of Life.

I'm not here to give you hope, there's no hope anywhere. I can tell you this though, there's a chance for everyone. Fight for it. It may not all work out in the end, it most likely wouldn't, but fight.

There's a chance.

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We all are very familiar with each of these words. The fickle capabilities of these words can't be vaguely understated. They are also quite interwoven that it is quite impossible to discern their differences and interrelation. Okay a quick story.

A friend asked me question, that I couldn't have possibly thought would ever come out of his mouth. His question was; "Why exactly do people do bad things?" At that moment I had no answer for him. We met again and I asked for his reason behind that question and he gave me a back story. He comes from quite a religious background. His Dad a Reverend father and his own father an Imam , His Mom an Evangelist and her own Father the founder of a church. He told me how one day things fell apart for his family. He was too emotional to tell what exactly went wrong but he concluded with his parents are in court with a divorce case. After I gave a short speech of 'ginger' and 'life comes with challenges' talk, he rephrased his question and asked again, "What exactly are we living for?"

Love is beautiful. Beautiful and dangerous. It makes even the strongest of men/women do weak and unreasonable things. Now interwoven with society and religion it makes us delusional and delirious. My answer to my friend that day was "We are not living for anything". Millions die every year without leaving a mark in this world. Not because they did not try or they did not do enough, but simply because they were disadvantaged.

Now how's all of these related to the Nigerian Youth. That's a pretty simple question! These demographic I believe are one of the most disadvantaged group in the world. The pressure is crazy. We are also one of the most religious set of humans on the planet. Now is that good thing or a bad thing? Our deluded definition of Love is misconstrued by the ample effects of religion and society in contrast to the minute references of reality. We want the Telenovela kind of love mixed with the lavishness of Bollywood and sprinkles of legitimate spirituality. We dream a lot, and most of the dreams will never be reality.

Love, Society, and religion can't really be separated but it should be clearly differentiated. Love in itself is a feeling that is sprout up by the misconstrual frenzy of good moments which is influenced by the Society and Religion. None of these matters, what matters is how we use or misuse such a powerful tool in shaping our behaviour in the society.

I'm not done with this Topic just yet! Digest this and stay tuned! Photo Credit:( Olu Famule on unsplash)

We all are very familiar with each of these words. The fickle capabilities of these words can't be vaguely understated. They are also quite interwoven that it is quite impossible to discern their differences and interrelation. Okay a quick story.

A friend asked me question, that I couldn't have possibly thought would ever come out of his mouth. His question was; "Why exactly do people do bad things?" At that moment I had no answer for him. We met again and I asked for his reason behind that question and he gave me a back story. He comes from quite a religious background. His Dad a Reverend father and his own father an Imam , His Mom an Evangelist and her own Father the founder of a church. He told me how one day things fell apart for his family. He was too emotional to tell what exactly went wrong but he concluded with his parents are in court with a divorce case. After I gave a short speech of 'ginger' and 'life comes with challenges' talk, he rephrased his question and asked again, "What exactly are we living for?"

Love is beautiful. Beautiful and dangerous. It makes even the strongest of men/women do weak and unreasonable things. Now interwoven with society and religion it makes us delusional and delirious. My answer to my friend that day was "We are not living for anything". Millions die every year without leaving a mark in this world. Not because they did not try or they did not do enough, but simply because they were disadvantaged.

Now how's all of these related to the Nigerian Youth. That's a pretty simple question! These demographic I believe are one of the most disadvantaged group in the world. The pressure is crazy. We are also one of the most religious set of humans on the planet. Now is that good thing or a bad thing? Our deluded definition of Love is misconstrued by the ample effects of religion and society in contrast to the minute references of reality. We want the Telenovela kind of love mixed with the lavishness of Bollywood and sprinkles of legitimate spirituality. We dream a lot, and most of the dreams will never be reality.

Love, Society, and religion can't really be separated but it should be clearly differentiated. Love in itself is a feeling that is sprout up by the misconstrual frenzy of good moments which is influenced by the Society and Religion. None of these matters, what matters is how we use or misuse such a powerful tool in shaping our behaviour in the society.

I'm not done with this Topic just yet! Digest this and stay tuned! Photo Credit:( Olu Famule on Onsplash)

We all are very familiar with each of these words. The fickle capabilities of these words can't be vaguely understated. They are also quite interwoven that it is quite impossible to discern their differences and interrelation. Okay a quick story.

A friend asked me question, that I couldn't have possibly thought would ever come out of his mouth. His question was; "Why exactly do people do bad things?" At that moment I had no answer for him. We met again and I asked for his reason behind that question and he gave me a back story. He comes from quite a religious background. His Dad a Reverend father and his own father an Imam , His Mom an Evangelist and her own Father the founder of a church. He told me how one day things fell apart for his family. He was too emotional to tell what exactly went wrong but he concluded with his parents are in court with a divorce case. After I gave a short speech of 'ginger' and 'life comes with challenges' talk, he rephrased his question and asked again, "What exactly are we living for?"

Love is beautiful. Beautiful and dangerous. It makes even the strongest of men/women do weak and unreasonable things. Now interwoven with society and religion it makes us delusional and delirious. My answer to my friend that day was "We are not living for anything". Millions die every year without leaving a mark in this world. Not because they did not try or they did not do enough, but simply because they were disadvantaged.

Now how's all of these related to the Nigerian Youth. That's a pretty simple question! These demographic I believe are one of the most disadvantaged group in the world. The pressure is crazy. We are also one of the most religious set of humans on the planet. Now is that good thing or a bad thing? Our deluded definition of Love is misconstrued by the ample effects of religion and society in contrast to the minute references of reality. We want the Telenovela kind of love mixed with the lavishness of Bollywood and sprinkles of legitimate spirituality. We dream a lot, and most of the dreams will never be reality.

Love, Society, and religion can't really be separated but it should be clearly differentiated. Love in itself is a feeling that is sprout up by the misconstrual frenzy of good moments which is influenced by the Society and Religion. None of these matters, what matters is how we use or misuse such a powerful tool in shaping our behaviour in the society.

I'm not done with this Topic just yet! Digest this and stay tuned! Photo Credit:( GH gossip)

We all are very familiar with each of these words. The fickle capabilities of these words can't be vaguely understated. They are also quite interwoven that it is quite impossible to discern their differences and interrelation. Okay a quick story.

A friend asked me question, that I couldn't have possibly thought would ever come out of his mouth. His question was; "Why exactly do people do bad things?" At that moment I had no answer for him. We met again and I asked for his reason behind that question and he gave me a back story. He comes from quite a religious background. His Dad a Reverend father and his own father an Imam , His Mom an Evangelist and her own Father the founder of a church. He told me how one day things fell apart for his family. He was too emotional to tell what exactly went wrong but he concluded with his parents are in court with a divorce case. After I gave a short speech of 'ginger' and 'life comes with challenges' talk, he rephrased his question and asked again, "What exactly are we living for?"

Love is beautiful. Beautiful and dangerous. It makes even the strongest of men/women do weak and unreasonable things. Now interwoven with society and religion it makes us delusional and delirious. My answer to my friend that day was "We are not living for anything". Millions die every year without leaving a mark in this world. Not because they did not try or they did not do enough, but simply because they were disadvantaged.

Now how's all of these related to the Nigerian Youth. That's a pretty simple question! These demographic I believe are one of the most disadvantaged group in the world. The pressure is crazy. We are also one of the most religious set of humans on the planet. Now is that good thing or a bad thing? Our deluded definition of Love is misconstrued by the ample effects of religion and society in contrast to the minute references of reality. We want the Telenovela kind of love mixed with the lavishness of Bollywood and sprinkles of legitimate spirituality. We dream a lot, and most of the dreams will never be reality.

Love, Society, and religion can't really be separated but it should be clearly differentiated. Love in itself is a feeling that is sprout up by the misconstrual frenzy of good moments which is influenced by the Society and Religion. None of these matters, what matters is how we use or misuse such a powerful tool in shaping our behaviour in the society.

I'm not done with this Topic just yet! Digest this and stay tuned!

We all are very familiar with each of these words. The fickle capabilities of these words can't be vaguely understated. They are also quite interwoven that it is quite impossible to discern their differences and interrelation. Okay a quick story.

A friend asked me question, that I couldn't have possibly thought would ever come out of his mouth. His question was; "Why exactly do people do bad things?" At that moment I had no answer for him. We met again and I asked for his reason behind that question and he gave me a back story. He comes from quite a religious background. His Dad a Reverend father and his own father an Imam , His Mom an Evangelist and her own Father the founder of a church. He told me how one day things fell apart for his family. He was too emotional to tell what exactly went wrong but he concluded with his parents are in court with a divorce case. After I gave a short speech of 'ginger' and 'life comes with challenges' talk, he rephrased his question and asked again, "What exactly are we living for?"

Love is beautiful. Beautiful and dangerous. It makes even the strongest of men/women do weak and unreasonable things. Now interwoven with society and religion it makes us delusional and delirious. My answer to my friend that day was "We are not living for anything". Millions die every year without leaving a mark in this world. Not because they did not try or they did not do enough, but simply because they were disadvantaged.

Now how's all of these related to the Nigerian Youth. That's a pretty simple question! These demographic I believe are one of the most disadvantaged group in the world. The pressure is crazy. We are also one of the most religious set of humans on the planet. Now is that good thing or a bad thing? Our deluded definition of Love is misconstrued by the ample effects of religion and society in contrast to the minute references of reality. We want the Telenovela kind of love mixed with the lavishness of Bollywood and sprinkles of legitimate spirituality. We dream a lot, and most of the dreams will never be reality.

Love, Society, and religion can't really be separated but it should be clearly differentiated. Love in itself is a feeling that is sprout up by the misconstrual frenzy of good moments which is influenced by the Society and Religion. None of these matters, what matters is how we use or misuse such a powerful tool in shaping our behaviour in the society.

I'm not done with this Topic just yet! Digest this and stay tuned!

We all are very familiar with each of these words. The fickle capabilities of these words can't be vaguely understated. They are also quite interwoven that it is quite impossible to discern their differences and interrelation. Okay a quick story.

A friend asked me question, that I couldn't have possibly thought would ever come out of his mouth. His question was; "Why exactly do people do bad things?" At that moment I had no answer for him. We met again and I asked for his reason behind that question and he gave me a back story. He comes from quite a religious background. His Dad a Reverend father and his own father an Imam , His Mom an Evangelist and her own Father the founder of a church. He told me how one day things fell apart for his family. He was too emotional to tell what exactly went wrong but he concluded with his parents are in court with a divorce case. After I gave a short speech of 'ginger' and 'life comes with challenges' talk, he rephrased his question and asked again, "What exactly are we living for?"

Love is beautiful. Beautiful and dangerous. It makes even the strongest of men/women do weak and unreasonable things. Now interwoven with society and religion it makes us delusional and delirious. My answer to my friend that day was "We are not living for anything". Millions die every year without leaving a mark in this world. Not because they did not try or they did not do enough, but simply because they were disadvantaged.

Now how's all of these related to the Nigerian Youth. That's a pretty simple question! These demographic I believe are one of the most disadvantaged group in the world. The pressure is crazy. We are also one of the most religious set of humans on the planet. Now is that good thing or a bad thing? Our deluded definition of Love is misconstrued by the ample effects of religion and society in contrast to the minute references of reality. We want the Telenovela kind of love mixed with the lavishness of Bollywood and sprinkles of legitimate spirituality. We dream a lot, and most of the dreams will never be reality.

Love, Society, and religion can't really be separated but it should be clearly differentiated. Love in itself is a feeling that is sprout up by the misconstrual frenzy of good moments which is influenced by the Society and Religion. None of these matters, what matters is how we use or misuse such a powerful tool in shaping our behaviour in the society.

I'm not done with this Topic just yet! Digest this and stay tuned!