Anger II

I'm speaking so much on this because I've been a victim of uncontrolled anger. And I was the one with the uncontrolled anger. Before now, I had serious anger issues, from pride I guess. Every little thing irked me, even from very close and special people.

I was one that when I'm angry, I threw things away and yelled and talked, hurting myself and the person in question. A friend spoke with me about it but I let it slide, that I can't help it. And also, I yelled at a very close friend of mind and didn't apologize, because of pride.

The height of it was with another friend of mine. I was so angry that I was sarcastic and my words very hateful, hurting her and in turn hurting me. She didn't speak to me for days and when we eventually spoke, I realized she was still hurt over my reaction. But I did something I didn't know I could do; I apologized. And I remedied our friendship, and we're speaking happily now as if nothing happened.

Now, you must understand, this change didn't happen just like that ( it has been going on for years). It's because I sought God's face. Before the last incident that I apologized, I had sought God's face months ago, surrendering all the anger to Him, and He gave me peace. And He answered me. I let go of my pride and got peace in return.

The highlight of my message is that, though anger is natural and inevitable, your way of expressing it and controlling it can go a long way in fostering peace, unity and harmony in your relationships.

Don't let anger be a reason why you're not able to achieve what you wanted, because you walked away angry, when you would have waited to see what's next.

To get over uncontrollable anger and anger issues, recognize what triggers you develop ways to control your reaction to them. Mechanisms such as exercise, mindfulness and talking to friends or trustworthy people can help you. Above all, seek God's face daily, asking for guidance. Remember, God loves us and wants us to maintain healthy relationships with one another. Have a great day. I am El Shava.